Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Long distance lovin'

Week 2 of the long distance courting.....and I've got to admit - it's tough!!!

The Polar Bear and I got to spend time together on Friday, and it was great - just not long enough :( 

I've been chatting with some close friends who are involved with great guys, and they are also separated by distance.  Not quite sure how most of us cope with it, but here are a few tips that have helped me get started.  Hope they are helpful!!!

  1. Set aside some time each day to talk, e-mail, or touch basis.  For us, 10:00 works really well - great chance to wind down, chat about the day, and wish each other sweet dreams:)
  2. Build structure in your own life.  We had the chance (when he lived in town) to spend time together on a whim.  Now that we have a different reality, I've found new, structured ways to spend my free time.
  3. Plan a monthly meeting (if you can).  If it's available to you, schedule some time each month (a weekend, a day, an evening) for the two of you to get together.  We've got our weekends mapped out for August and September, and it's so reassuring to know when we'll be spending some face time together.
  4. Be romantic from afar.  There are soooo many things to do to show amor to your guy from a distance.  For me, I love sending postcards weekly.  For him, he digs sending texts each morning.  It works out quite nicely!
  5. Think long term.  I'm at a phase in life where the grown up is kicking in, and I want to be serious about my future.  While I love dating, I love love even more, and it makes me happy that he and I talk seriously about the short and long term future.  For now, that would involve staying in Canada a bit longer, which I think I can swing:)

ciao for now!


  1. the 4 geographic hours will seem like nothing in a little while, allyson. and if the relationship is meant to be, it'll work out. trust me!

  2. My sweetie lives in Miami. I live in NC. We do talk everyday (usually mornings/evenings) and see each other at least 1X a month. We try to do 2 or 3 times.

    It's not easy but, as you say, when you communicate and talk about your plans collectively and individually for the future it makes it easier.

    Hope things work well with you guys!

  3. my love lives three states away from me when i am away in school so i feel your pain. but here is the thing with long distance, it will either strengthen a relationship or destroy it right off the bat. we just started our fourth school semester away from each other and let me tell you... it gets even better every time we are in each other's arms again ;)


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